Monday, October 6, 2008

Let the games begin... or not.

Really the games is not what I'm looking for but what can I say? It was the title that popped in my head.

I've changed my mind about dating. I've decided it will be fun to go out and date, so I have a date for Friday night. Something a friend set up. He's short she says... but he's funny and she thinks I'll really like him. So I'm going, what the heck right?

I need to do some things for me right now, for too long I've let guilt get in the way of being a happy person. No more... or at least until I change my mind again. I'm ready to be happy, with or without a man. I am happy without one, but it would be nice to have someone to spend some time with. I have no grand illusions that some perfect prince charming is out there. No one is perfect.

I am very critical of men though and I hope I can let some of that go. I even got on a dating website and updated my profile and made it public again.

This fish is in the water and casting her pole.

11 comments:

jeanie said...

"I'm ready to be happy, with or without a man."

Good on you, Kari - because that is the most important thing - learning to be happy within yourself. A good man is a blessing, and a bad man is a curse - but the most important asset is to enjoy being with you.

Good luck on Friday - there are many worse things in life than being short.

Kari said...

Yes, and that date was this past Friday and that guy was sweet, respectful and all around so far a good man.

We have decided to go out again.

He is quite taken with me according to his buddy (who is seeing a friend of mine). I have to admit that I'm quite impressed.

Also found out he is about 6 years younger than me.

jeanie said...

ha - don't know how I missed the post before...

lol - there is DEFINITELY nothing wrong with a younger man - just take it slow and easy and enjoy the build up (says the girl who did admittedly dive in after a few years out of the water).

Rachel said...

You go, Cougar girl! A younger man hasn't had as much time to get screwed up, right? More 'malleable' to your training efforts?
I can't even imagine dating right now, but I suppose at some point I'll start to remember what life was like before arranging for a babysitter for 2 kids, screening guys for whether or not I'd want my kids to meet them and decide it's worth the effort of trying again....or maybe I'll just lay on the couch and watch the Law & Order marathon...

Kari said...

Ha.. a cougar. I like that.

Thankfully with the joint custody that is one benefit I have. I do not have to arrange for sitters often... I think that would make me want to never go out in the first place on a date. I'd value my time more for doing other things.

We've gone out once, and he's coming over with other male muscle back up in the form of his brother and friends to help me move on Saturday lol dd will be with her dad as it is his b-day this weekend so I though score perfect!! I don't have to worry about him being psyco because he is a friend of one of my friends so it's all gravy.

Sunday we've made plans for a real date again.

Rachel said...

Best of luck, hoping he continues to be sweet and respectful. And tell him if he has any sweet and respectful friends in Wisconsin, I'd love to meet them!

jeanie said...

Oh yay - a moving helper in the hand is worth a boyfriend in the bushes 1000 times over!!!

Kari said...

Ha... you have no idea what you said translates to Jeanie do you? Or maybe you do... hmmmmm....

Rachel, so far so good, he's a really nice and sweet guy. I'll have to ask about Wisconsin for ya ;)

Oh and he brought his cousin with him to help move. I think he may have done that to let his cousin check me out. What do ya think?

Rachel said...

Yeah, he was totally looking for his cousin's approval. Looks like he plans on sticking around for a while!

Single Mom Seeking said...

Love this post. Here's to "casting" from a healthy, grounded place!

Kari said...

Thanks, I quite love it too. Casting my pole has been fun this time around.